The Opt-Out Is A Discipline and Not A Destination: Part 2

Jan 11, 2023

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I'm Kelley — licensed therapist, burnout expert, and host of the Black Girl Burnout podcast. I encourage black women to opt out of struggle and opt into our legacy of joy and accomplishment. Join me!

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GUEST: Dr. Jeanette Davis (Dr. Ocean)


In this episode, host Kelley Bonner embraces the importance of opting-out of relationships in your personal life that no longer serve you.  Like many of you already know, Dr. Jeanette Davis addresses how difficult it can be to effectively manage opting-out of unhealthy family relationships, without the need for Tyler Perry level productions to do so. Setting boundaries in your personal life is totally ok! Remember, the ultimate goal is to understand that the process of “opting out” is an ongoing collection of disciplined actions, not simply one-time destination.

The Black Girl Burnout podcast is dedicated to helping black women learn how to opt-out of the mentality of struggle while also learning how to opt-into the life of joy, abundance, and good health, which is their birthright. Burnout can manifest in a variety of ways, including feelings of exhaustion, cynicism, and a lack of accomplishment. It is totally ok if you are experiencing more than one of the feelings at the same time. Being able to fully align with your truth is a significant sign of strength.


A dynamic author, research scientist, and diversity advocate, Dr. Jeanette Davis (also known as Dr. Ocean) has left her mark far beyond the field of science. Dr. Ocean is a Marine Microbiologist who contributes to ocean science nationally and internationally and has traveled to several countries speaking about her research and coordinating ocean science. Dr. Ocean earned her B.S. in Marine and Environmental Science from Hampton University and a Ph.D. in Marine Microbiology from the University of Maryland where she focused on marine drug discovery and is recently cited in Science Magazine for helping to discover a marine bacterium that helps fight cancer.  Dr. Ocean has taken her scientific skills outside of a laboratory to live aboard research vessels for weeks at a time to study marine organism.

Dr. Ocean’s notable accomplishments have led her to be featured in several prominent magazines such as Ebony, Essence, and Black Enterprise as the “next great marine biologist.” She has worked with distinguished scientist to author national publication released from the White House that highlight essential ocean research and technology topics for the next decade. She is a strong advocate of community and seeks to empower people through science while creating safe spaces for underrepresented groups to explore science. Dr. Ocean mentors students from elementary to college, lectures at colleges, and awards scholarships to African American students in her hometown of Wilmington, Delaware. Dr. Ocean has, and continues to be, an inspirational figure for science-lovers of all ages.


Deciding to opt-out of relationships that no longer serve your good takes courage. Sis, you have all of the courage and support that you need. The BGB community is here for you. We want to know why you feel as though you are still struggling, despite knowing that the relationship in question is no longer working for your good? We would also like to know if you believe that it is possible to opt-out of unhealthy relationships totally drama free? Check out these time stamps from the podcast audio and let us know what you think on social media 🙂

Why am I still struggling [3:20]

Opt-out without drama  [10:34]

Different dynamics with different people [12:02]


Click below to view the full transcript for this podcast episode.

The Opt-Out Is A Discipline and Not A Destination Part 2 – Full Transcript


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Are you a black woman who has been feeling overwhelmed, burnt out, and confined to the struggle? If so, the Black Girl Burnout podcast is here for you. Journey along with host Kelley Bonner as she interviews guests and shares personal anecdotes about productive ways to opt-out of struggle and opt into happiness,  while navigating the unique challenges and joys of being a black woman in today’s world. From work and relationships to self-care and mental health, this podcast is a safe space to explore and find support along the journey towards your goals. Join our community and start feeling more connected and less burnt out.

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Associate Producer – Amanda St. Maur

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