Unlocking Your Authentic Code: A Journey to Self-Discovery

Apr 23, 2024

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I'm Kelley — licensed therapist, burnout expert, and host of the Black Girl Burnout podcast. I encourage black women to opt out of struggle and opt into our legacy of joy and accomplishment. Join me!

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Glow-up for 2024
Glow-up for 2024

The Foundation of Self-Discovery

The journey starts with understanding and aligning your true self, a process Jodie describes as the “glow-up.” Central to this is the wellness wheel—a tool that helps you assess various aspects of your well-being and identify areas needing attention. This is about more than just physical health; it encompasses emotional, social, and professional well-being.

Listening to Your Body

A crucial part of Jodie’s framework is understanding body signals. Recognizing how physical responses can guide decision-making is vital. For instance, if a job interview makes you physically uncomfortable, it might not be the right fit. This concept, inspired by the book “The Body Keeps the Score,” emphasizes that our bodies often pick up on subconscious cues before our minds are aware of them.

Designing a Life You Love

Jodie breaks down the glow-up into four main quadrants: physical, social, career and finances, and intellectual and spiritual. Each area requires attention and intention to craft a fulfilling life.

Physical and Social Well-being

The physical aspect isn’t just about appearance; it’s about feeling good in your skin, which can significantly affect self-esteem and confidence. Socially, engaging in enriching activities that expand your horizons and connect you with diverse people is crucial.

Career Fulfillment and Financial Health

In the realm of career and finances, it’s important to align your work with your values and ensure it contributes positively to your life. Jodie emphasizes the importance of having open discussions about salary and career aspirations, which can lead to more informed and empowering decisions.

Spiritual and Intellectual Growth

The final quadrant focuses on nurturing your spiritual and intellectual sides. Whether through religion, meditation, or learning, finding what gives your life meaning and continuing to grow intellectually are essential for long-term happiness.

The Path to Authenticity

Embarking on this journey of self-discovery can be transformative. By taking a holistic approach and being mindful of our physical, social, intellectual, and spiritual needs, we can create a life that feels authentic and joyful. Remember, the key is not to let life happen to you, but to actively design the life you desire. For more inspiration and guidance on your journey, make sure to follow Jodie on TikTok at @jodiektay.

As you reflect on these insights, consider how you can apply these quadrants to your own life. What steps will you take to align more closely with your authentic self? How will you design your life to reflect who you truly are?


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