Opt Out of Busy & Bothered

Jan 27, 2023

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I'm Kelley — licensed therapist, burnout expert, and host of the Black Girl Burnout podcast. I encourage black women to opt out of struggle and opt into our legacy of joy and accomplishment. Join me!

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In this episode host Kelley Bonner embraces a problem that many black women share. Knowing how to opt out of being busy, or bothered all the time is not something that we as black women learned in school or at home. Many of us have grown up watching our Mothers and Grandmothers constantly remain busy. Our society and academic communities have programmed us into the belief that if you are super busy, that means you are good at what you do. In today’s episode, Kelley declares here and now that you can be great at what you do, while at the same time finding ways to schedule “Rest” for yourself, full and uninterrupted “Rest”.  This episode is for you if you are ready to commit to finding ways to incorporate “Rest” into your life? Stay tuned til the end, to learn more about today’s homework assignment. You will be so glad that you did 🙂

The Black Girl Burnout podcast is dedicated to helping black women learn how to opt-out of the mentality of struggle while also learning how to opt-into the life of joy, abundance, and good health, which is their birthright. Burnout can manifest in a variety of ways, including feelings of exhaustion, cynicism, and a lack of accomplishment. It is totally ok if you are experiencing more than one of the feelings at the same time. Being able to fully align with your truth is a significant sign of strength. The ultimate goal of the podcast is to help women achieve Opting Out of Struggle.


Did you know that fear is often at the root of why you are keeping yourself in a perpetual state of being busy? Sometimes people keep themselves busy because they don’t want to deal with other issues that may be going on in their lives. Just know that it is totally ok, to give yourself a break. The truth is, you deserve rest in your life and getting committed to scheduling rest for yourself is even better.

If you are new to the Black Girl Burnout podcast, or a happily subscribed member of the Black Girl Burnout community (big hug), thank you so much for your support. Message us on social media and let us know how are you incorporating rest into your weekly life? Also, let us know what resonates with you from this episode?

By the way, have you been enjoying our new licensed musical treat by Mayyadda.  Let us know what you think about the vibe of our new podcast sound. Stay tuned, we will be interviewing her soon, she is amazing!

Check out these time stamps from the podcast audio and let us know what you think on social media 🙂

Believe You Are Deserving of Rest  [6:59]

Why Does Rest Feel Uncomfortable  [8:40]

Gotta Make A Change [12:29]


Click below to view the full transcript for this podcast episode. 

Opt Out of Busy & Bothered


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Are you a black woman who has been feeling overwhelmed, burnt out, and confined to the struggle? If so, the Black Girl Burnout podcast is here for you. Journey along with host Kelley Bonner as she interviews guests and shares personal anecdotes about productive ways to opt-out of struggle and opt into happiness,  while navigating the unique challenges and joys of being a black woman in today’s world. From work and relationships to self-care and mental health, this podcast is a safe space to explore and find support along the journey towards your goals. Join our community and start feeling more connected and less burnt out.

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Special thanks and appreciation to the team for all that you do! 🧡

Producer  – Wendye Walter

Creative Director – William Cornell

Associate Producer – Amanda St. Maur

Cover Art – Reignland Creatives