Opt Out of Revenge

Feb 10, 2023

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I'm Kelley — licensed therapist, burnout expert, and host of the Black Girl Burnout podcast. I encourage black women to opt out of struggle and opt into our legacy of joy and accomplishment. Join me!

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In this episode, host Kelley Bonner closes the door on Revenge. Along your journey in life, there is a 100% probability that someone in your work life and your family life is going to do or say something that is going to hurt your feelings. Now that we got that out of the way, let’s focus on how we process through those emotions by choosing accountability steps instead of the endless cycle of getting someone “back.” What I am suggesting will not be easy, and it will take time to fully release vengeance from you heart. But, by faith and experience, I am here to tell that it can be done, if you put in the work. This episode is for you if you are ready to focus on arriving at a “better you” instead of focusing on how you can hurt those who have hurt you. Stay tuned til the end, to learn more about today’s homework assignment. You will be so glad that you did 🙂

The Black Girl Burnout podcast is dedicated to helping black women learn how to opt-out of the mentality of struggle while also learning how to opt-into the life of joy, abundance, and good health, which is their birthright. Burnout can manifest in a variety of ways, including feelings of exhaustion, cynicism, and a lack of accomplishment. It is totally ok if you are experiencing more than one of the feelings at the same time. Being able to fully align with your truth is a significant sign of strength. The ultimate goal of the podcast is to help women achieve Opting Out of Struggle.


Did you know that opting into revenge is just another way of opting into struggle? Did you know that bringing harm to someone does not feel nearly as good as it feels to allow joy into your life? If you open yourself up to opting out of being committed to pain, and rather choose to opt into allowing no one to steal your joy, your life will be forever changed. By working through the exercises that Kelley suggests, you will be able to release the things that are holding you back from exiting the vicious cycle of revenge. Let today be the day that you say NO MORE, to all versions of the struggle.

If you are new to the Black Girl Burnout podcast, or a happily subscribed member of the Black Girl Burnout community (big hug), thank you so much for your support. Message us on social media and let us know what is holding you back from releasing feelings of revenge? Also, let us know how this episode resonated with you? By the way, have you been enjoying our new licensed musical treat by Mayyadda.  Let us know what you think about the vibe of our new podcast sound. Stay tuned, we will be interviewing her soon, she is amazing!

Check out these time stamps from the podcast audio and let us know what you think on social media 🙂

Revenge = Continuing Dynamic Struggle [4:37]

Opting Into Healing Prioritizes You [9:57]

We Can Get Accountability  [11:11]


Click below to view the full transcript for this podcast episode. 

Opt Out of Revenge


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Are you a black woman who has been feeling overwhelmed, burnt out, and confined to the struggle? If so, the Black Girl Burnout podcast is here for you. Journey along with host Kelley Bonner as she interviews guests and shares personal anecdotes about productive ways to opt-out of struggle and opt into happiness,  while navigating the unique challenges and joys of being a black woman in today’s world. From work and relationships to self-care and mental health, this podcast is a safe space to explore and find support along the journey towards your goals. Join our community and start feeling more connected and less burnt out.

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Special thanks and appreciation to the team for all that you do! 🧡

Producer  – Wendye Walter

Creative Director – William Cornell

Associate Producer – Amanda St. Maur

Cover Art – Reignland Creatives