Opt Into Reciprocity

Feb 15, 2023

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I'm Kelley — licensed therapist, burnout expert, and host of the Black Girl Burnout podcast. I encourage black women to opt out of struggle and opt into our legacy of joy and accomplishment. Join me!

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In this episode, host Kelley Bonner welcomes you to wholeheartedly Opt Into Reciprocity. All too often black women find themselves in a pattern of being more on the giving spectrum in work situations and personal relationships. It is totally awesome to be a generous person. However, this doesn’t mean that you don’t also deserve to also receive. This episode is for you if you are ready to allow a more balanced and healthy cycle of giving and receiving into your life. Stay tuned til the end, to learn more about today’s homework assignment. You will be so glad that you did 🙂

The Black Girl Burnout podcast is dedicated to helping black women learn how to opt-out of the mentality of struggle while also learning how to opt-into the life of joy, abundance, and good health, which is their birthright. Burnout can manifest in a variety of ways, including feelings of exhaustion, cynicism, and a lack of accomplishment. It is totally ok if you are experiencing more than one of the feelings at the same time. Being able to fully align with your truth is a significant sign of strength. The ultimate goal of the podcast is to help women achieve Opting Out of Struggle.


Did you know that generosity and reciprocity are not the same thing? Did you know that expecting reciprocity is also about celebrating joy? Wouldn’t it be awesome to even embrace reciprocal family relationships? Listen, you deserve people to be there for you, just like you are there for them. Reciprocity is not always even, but it shouldn’t always be drastically uneven either. If you are ready to release the mentality that reciprocity is a form of greed, this episode is for you. By working through the exercises that Kelley suggests, you will be able to identify the reasons why you continue to allow yourself to remain in uneven relationships at work and in your personal life. Let today be the day that you say NO MORE, to all versions of the struggle.

If you are new to the Black Girl Burnout podcast, or a happily subscribed member of the Black Girl Burnout community (big hug), thank you so much for your support. Message us on social media and let us know how you would like for reciprocity to show up in your life? Also, let us know how this episode resonated with you. By the way, have you been enjoying our new licensed musical treat by Mayyadda?  Let us know what you think about the vibe of our new podcast sound. Stay tuned, we will be interviewing her soon, she is amazing!

Check out these time stamps from the podcast audio and let us know what you think on social media 🙂

Definition of Reciprocity  [1:12]

Reciprocity Isn’t An Act of Greed [6:46]

Reciprocal Family Relationships  [10:42]


Click below to view the full transcript for this podcast episode. 

Opt Into Reciprocity


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Are you a black woman who has been feeling overwhelmed, burnt out, and confined to the struggle? If so, the Black Girl Burnout podcast is here for you. Journey along with host Kelley Bonner as she interviews guests and shares personal anecdotes about productive ways to opt-out of struggle and opt into happiness,  while navigating the unique challenges and joys of being a black woman in today’s world. From work and relationships to self-care and mental health, this podcast is a safe space to explore and find support along the journey towards your goals. Join our community and start feeling more connected and less burnt out.

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Special thanks and appreciation to the team for all that you do! 🧡

Producer  – Wendye Walter

Creative Director – William Cornell

Associate Producer – Amanda St. Maur

Cover Art – Reignland Creatives