In this episode, host Kelley Bonner rounds out this three part discussion by addressing ways to effectively opt-out of situations and relationships that no longer serve you in your professional life. Kelley and Dr. Davis cover the transition from being addicted to being seen, to intentionally choosing not to be seen, to finally being able to fully live in the light of your purpose. Remember, the ultimate goal is to understand that the process of “opting out” is an ongoing collection of disciplined actions, not simply one time destination.

In this episode, host Kelley Bonner embraces the importance of opting-out of relationships in your personal life that no longer serve you. Like many of you already know, Dr. Jeanette Davis addresses how difficult it can be to effectively manage opting-out of unhealthy family relationships, without the need for Tyler Perry level productions to do so. Setting boundaries in your personal life is totally ok! Remember, the ultimate goal is to understand that the process of “opting out” is an ongoing collection of disciplined actions, not simply one time destination.

Kelley’s back with a few episodes before the season 2 premiere in January! Today’s episode is all about how to manage holiday stress. Whether you are planning on celebrating with family, or this time of year is filled with grief or you don’t celebrate the holidays at all. This episode has got you covered. Learn the four ways to opt out of holiday stress by prioritizing peace, managing expectations, and developing an escape plan this holiday season. Opt out of the stress of the holidays and opt into rest and connection.

Today’s episode is all about opting out of lies. Now, lies happen every day, all around us. And if we’re being honest, we’re probably have told a few. But, today we’re not going to focus on the lies that get told to us and the lies we may tell to others. That’s coming up in future podcasts. Today, I’m going to talk about the lies that we tell ourselves. Next, I will discuss strategies that will help you to learn how to opt-out of those lies. I want to start by talking about the original lie, about black women being born to struggle, born to suffer, and born to be trapped in a cycle of fighting. For decades black women have been conditioned into believing that we will never experience joy, our true inheritance, and legacy. If you are ready to release these false beliefs from your life, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about it.

Today, I want to ask you another question: do you struggle with forgiveness? I feel like that’s a loaded and complicated question. I think that a lot of people may say, “No, I forgive everyone.” However, when you then dig a little deeper underneath the surface, those feelings are often not sincere or true. If you struggle with being able to forgive, full-heartedly, this episode is for you. We will begin by talking about what forgiveness is and what forgiveness isn’t. When I’m talking about forgiveness, I want to be clear that I am not talking about condoning bad behavior, allowing people to mistreat you, or allowing people to disrespect you. Again, the whole goal of this podcast is to encourage the members of our community to opt-out of struggle on every level of our lives. Let’s talk about it.

Today, we are going to talk about opting out of hard work. Specifically, we are going to talk about what I mean when I say “hard work”. We are also going to cover why some types of hard work can be considered toxic. Our goal is to align with doing things that in a manner that flow and bring ease into your daily life. In the past we have discussed toxic hustle culture, which is the belief that you’ve got to grind, you’ve got to push, you’ve got to force yourself to do things. Unfortunately, so much of that messaging keeps us opting into struggle, right? It keeps us always pushing ourselves, not feeling like we are doing something meaningful unless it is difficult, while not feeling like there’s any reward. I feel like this toxic hustle myth is slowly killing our culture, particularly killing black women. We are some of the hardest-working people on the planet. We’re over-educated compared to other demographics, and we have strong entrepreneurial skills. Many of us have a main hustle and three side hustles or two main hustles. We go, go, go, and we work hard, hard, hard. But not every type of hard work is healthy. It’s time to transition into a healthy work mindset. Let’s talk about it.