Today, I am officially calling for a town hall/community family meeting. We’re going to talk about opting out of celebrating trauma. Now hear me out. I want you to set a few ground rules. First, the vibe is going to be sensitive today. Although we’re going to dig deep into elements of toxicity that are apparent in our culture, our focus will be on healing and love. In no way is today’s conversation intended to be harsh. However, there could be some uncomfortable moments. Second, I’m asking you to keep an open mind. I take this beautiful community that we are building so seriously. You all mean so much to my heart. And I want you to know that I sincerely thank all of you for downloading and engaging the strategies that have been delivered along the journey. More than anything, I want you to know that you are not alone. This podcast is exploding in popularity, which is proof that we really do have a mighty sisterhood forming. I do not take that for granted.

I’m so grateful to each one of you, for taking the time to listen to this podcast every week. Together we will enter today’s family meeting with an open heart, a healing spirit, and an attitude of gratitude. Let’s talk about it.

Are you tired? Today I want to talk about opting out of exhaustion. We’ve talked about opting into rest and my love of the nap ministry, which you can find on Instagram. But today I want to specifically focus on emotional exhaustion. Lately, exhaustion has been present across many demographics, but particularly amongst my fellow Black Women. Some are physically tired, but even more, are sick and tired of the mental fatigue from ongoing engagement with the struggle. Please believe, the struggle is real. So, I am going to cover effective strategies that you can use to navigate your journey towards opting out of exhaustion. Here is my question to you, is your mental health important enough to set healthy boundaries in your life? Let’s talk about it.

Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today’s episode marks the conclusion of this week’s 3-part “Know Your Worth “series. Thank you so much for journeying with me. To recap, Jessie Behrman’s quote, “When you learn how much you’re worth, you’ll stop giving people discounts” was established as the anchor concept of this series. We’ve talked about how to align with your worth in the business /professional realm. Plus, we addressed ways to manage boundaries with friends and family. However, knowing your worth in relationships is especially important. So many times, we go into relationships/partnerships, unaware of our value.
Listen, if you don’t know your worth your true value, no one else is going to know it either. We often unintentionally project a vibe that we are for sale and at a cheap price.
When this happens, we tend to give discounts to people who truly are not worthy of us. Here is my question to you, who are you giving discounts to? Let’s talk about it.

Today’s episode, part two of a three-part series, will be about opting into knowing your worth when it comes to family and friends. In part one we tackled ways to align with your worth in business. Now we are going to dive into navigating your value regarding business matters that involve family and friends. First, let me say that this entire series is anchored by Jessie Behrman’s quote, “When you learn how much you’re worth, you’ll stop giving people discounts.”. However, I fully acknowledge that business matters with family members can be tricky. That’s why knowing how to effectively set boundaries is important. If you are ready to learn one simple strategy that will help you to overcome objections when setting boundaries with family and friends, this episode is for you. Here is my question for you, are you setting healthy and effective boundaries with your family and friends? Let’s talk about it.

Today I want to talk to you about ways to successfully build good habits. A sure way to opt-out of struggle in your life is to align with a pattern of positive behavior. Let’s be clear, it is not easy to set a new habit. In fact, it takes at least 18 days to establish new behavior as a habit. But, here’s the good news, if you are determined to release struggle from your life, you have to power to accomplish this goal. The science behind this actually tells us that when we create a behavior and then find ways to reinforce that behavior, it becomes something called a habit loop. Let’s talk about it.

Today, I want to talk to you about the process of quitting with grace. I am a firm believer in putting an end to people, places and things that no longer serve you. If it involves keeping you bogged down in a mentality of struggle, it has got to go. However, separating yourself from struggle needs to be done in a way that is healthy and emotionally positive. Today, we are going to focus on strategies to release relationships and employment with class and grace. There is absolutely nothing wrong with opting out of engagement with toxic people and workplace situations. Here is my question for you: who or what work-related issues would you like to release? Let’s talk about it.